Our Mom stood by her word, her ethics and her loyalty to all those she loved dearly – she was fiercely loyal and loving to our Dad throughout their 26 years together and to us, her children for our 20 years. The one thing, more than anything she absolutely detested was hypocrisy – she couldn’t stand folk ‘showing up at the nth hour’ so to speak…she would always say, “if you can’t be bothered with me then don’t show up when it looks good just to make an appearance or when it’s convenient – or because it’s self-serving”…we knew and still know a few sad folk like this…even now there are still those ‘folk’ that act like they’ve known her well…like they knew her throughout her amazing marriage with our Dad, through raising us, and through her growth as an amazing independent and strong religious woman who chose her path definitively without doubts…and yet ‘these folk’ have not spoken to, or have had any involvement at all in ANY aspect of Mama’s life, our Dad, our family or otherwise for LITERALLY 26 years – and yet feign this ‘am so sad and so shocked and deeply grieving’ – We don’t begrudge anyone expressing their sympathy, but to act and write like they were ‘close and tight-knit’… yes, grief and loss are very individual and grief is a journey…trust us, sadly we know all too well how hard it is… just look at our Dad and how much he misses Mama…but seriously if you haven’t seen or heard from someone in over 25 years…come on…the hypocrisy… these are Mama’s least favourite people…she loathed this type….that is fact…she even wrote a song about it (called Hypocrisy which is on her album together with our Dad (The AK/SK Project – a thunderous exchange of silence)…we also have a number of hand-written letters she wrote on this matter …we have asked our Dad to put one in the gallery so you can see first hand…it’s clear and precise.
Mama’s life and memory are pure and it will remain that way, untainted by fake, phony and frankly deluded acts by those in their hypocrisy.
On our wedding day, when we danced our first song together, Solveig looked me with such love and respect, I couldn’t believe how lucky I was…I couldn’t take my eyes off her either – I knew we were meant to be…our pasts were silenced and the joy of a new day and all the new days that would follow filled us with such love that did not waver – not once in our lifetime together. Solveig may not be here with me anymore physically but she IS always with me and our girls looking over us now and forever. I will be with her again when it is my time, until then I will live as she lived, with love, passion and with unwavering love for our girls.
Our song…”You’re the Inspiration” (Chicago)
You know our love was meant to be The kind of love to last forever And I want you here with me From tonight until the end of time You should know Everywhere I go Always on my mind In my heart In my soul
You’re the meaning in my life You’re the inspiration You bring feeling to my life You’re the inspiration Want to have you near me I want to have you hear me saying “No one needs you more than I need you”And I know (And I know) Yes I know that it’s plain to see So in love when we’re together Now I know (Now I know) That I need you here with me From tonight until the end of time You should know (Yes, you need to know ) Everywhere I go You’re always on my mind You’re in my heart In my soul
You’re the meaning in my life You’re the inspiration You bring feeling to my life You’re the inspiration Want to have you near me I want to have you hear me saying “No one needs you more than I need you” (No one needs you more than I) Want to have you near me I want to have you hear me saying “No one needs you more than I need you” (No one needs you more) You’re the meaning in my life You’re the inspiration You bring feeling to my life You’re the inspiration
When you love somebody ‘Til the end of time When you love somebody Always on my mind / No one needs you more than I When you love somebody ‘Til the end of time When you love somebody Always on my mind / No on needs you more than I need you
This is the meaning (as explained by Solveig and our German friends) beyond the literal translation of the words and reflects more the spirit of the saying: “Your blessing is with me every day, mornings and evenings, that I happily spread my wings wherever my path may lead me“
Translation (loose translation, as it is written in literary German):
“blessing prevailed (not exactly the right word) over me in every situation (or circumstance), early and late, so that I happily unfold myself wherever my path leads me“